He’s Just Not That Into Me

The day after Valentine’s Day I got out of my Monday Morning Meeting to find a copy of “He’s Just Not That Into You” on my desk.

At the time I was a little put out, but it was from one an old friend who is an avid blog reader who thought it would give me some inspiration. And she was correct.

I bought this book when it first came out many years ago I purchased it and thought that it was by far the best dating book I have ever read. And over my years in London and with c*nts of ex-boyfriends who I was desperately in love with, I forgot about the basic principals of this book.

If a guy likes you, he will call you.  There is no excuse for cheating.  If he’s still seeing her he’s not with you.  If he only wants to see you at 3am or drunk – he’s just not that into you. 

One of my very best friends Pete is very anti-dating books.  And for the most part I agree.  But I could have saved myself a lot of grief over the past year if I had just listened to this book.

I would have realised, very early on, that the members of the manchise were just not that into me. 

My new years resolution to stop whoring around is going to be expanded this year to include the sub-clause – I am not going to chase boys anymore who are not into me. I sent a final email today (can’t help myself with that boy). And now that is it.  I am lovely and obliging and any man would be lucky to have me.

My Valentine…

 

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and I am being assaulted from every which way with red and pink hearts.. e-marketing for last minute valentines gifts and flowers galore.

Which is why its such a shame that once again I won’t be receiving any Valentines. 

In general I am very anti-valentines day.  It’s highly commercial and pointless holiday, just like Mothers & Fathers Day.  Its roots are in ye olde traditions, but more of that to come later.

It would be nice if come Sunday, someone miraculously wanted to be my valentine. Ideally he would be…

• A nice boy – not an asshole
• Monogamous – no cheaters need apply
• Be nice to me – for example he wouldn’t not be in touch after a date
• He would like me and ideally want to spend time with me
• It would be a bonus is he was attractive and had an accent
• It would also be a bonus if he was talented in the bedroom
• But mainly he would be nice to me

Beyond My Control

It is a truth universally acknowledged that as soon as you make the executive decision to cut something or someone from your life, it or they will immediately pop back into it.

Not that this is always a bad thing, but it leads to lots of confusion in my head.   This happened over the past week.  Just as I made the decision to stop whoring around and be off men for awhile, I make a date to go and see a guy I was really rather into. 

I thought to myself, it’ll be fine, it’ll be good to see him, because I do enjoy their company.  And it was good, too good. Now I have stupid feelings again.  I really would rather not have feelings for people, especially not until I am 100% sure that they reciprocate.  But this really is something beyond anyone’s control.  You can never help how you feel about something.  Whether its a boy, a food or a song.

But as I drove home I thought to myself, quit making such a big deal out of things.  It has been a habit of mine for years to over analyse situations, and think too much about things. Therefore, from now on, I am just going to take things as they come. Not make grand sweeping statements about how I am not going to do things, but just see what comes up on the way. 

Good plan. And an good weekend. Now where’s my wine?

Holding Out

I’ve been thinking a lot about boys lately – even more than usual.  2009 was a year spent trying to mend my broken heart and making out with many boys.  Don’t get me wrong, I met a few that I actually liked. One I was pretty much smitten with.  But distance was a problem.
The truth is, whilst my hormones are as raging as ever, I am bored with hooking up pointlessly with random boys.  I think I’d much rather wait for a bit until I meet someone I actually like.  Perhaps it is better when you have feelings for someone?
Oh well, we’ll see how long I stick to my guns.  I give it until my next glass of White Wine!

Your Hot Then Your Cold…

Men are annoying me a little at the moment.  Firstly they are upsetting at least 3 of my very good girlfriends.  But mainly this Hot and Cold business that they try and pull has GOT to stop.

There were a few men in the manchise as you know dear readers, and to be honest.. I am going to remove all of them from the pool.  I am tired of “I can’t wait to see you bla bla bla” texts and then NOTHING for ages. 

I am a good catch.  I scrub up  nicely, can be a domestic goddess when the mood strikes me and am obliging in the bedroom.  And yes, I can be a little crazy and my tendency to express exactly how I am feeling at any given time can scare men off.  But apart from that I think that I am a pretty good woman.   

So QUIT it!  Either be nice to me and communicate with me frequently (it doesn’t have to be daily.. but a couple of times a week would be nice) or piss off and leave me alone.  Don’t get me all confused by a month of silence then send a flirtatious text message.  And don’t blame when when you realise what you are missing… it’s your own fault.