Spark

Spark is important.  Without it, things just don’t work.

I recently had the good fortune to meet a gentleman who, on the outside, was perfect. Smart, funny, nice, romantic and could fix stuff around the house. Everything that a young lady ought to desire – and I do desire these traits. The problem?

No chemistry.  There are some things that you can overlook in a potential relationship.  But you can’t overlook a lack of chemistry. 

Without it, you’ve got zip but a friendly companionship.  Which is lovely, but not always practical.  Especially not when one of you has stronger feelings than the other.

One of my favourite moments in television is from the mini-series The Forsyte Saga, when a father, who has had his heart crushed tells his young daughter, desperately in love with the families nemesis’s son, that’s is always better to be with someone who loves you more than you love them, rather than the other way around.

I’ve always believed this to be the case. Not anymore.  Because the thing is, when you’re the one doing the disappointing you don’t feel comfortable at all.  You feel sad.